And trouble’s gonna follow where I go.
I licked my lips as I checked out my date for the thirteenth time. I had high hopes for tonight. Jamil was definitely trophy boyfriend material. I’d been checking this hottie out for a while. He’s one of the guys who belonged to the private Facebook group chat for Rupaul’s Drag Race fans in the country that I had been a part of since late last year.
If Jamil looked good on his Facebook and Instagram feeds, he looked downright delicious sitting across from me in this fancy restaurant. Gosh, I was just so sick of hookups and the whole dating scene. Maybe this date would be the one. Like seriously. Is it too much to ask to just want to find the perfect boyfriend that I could settle down with? We could even adopt twins! A boy and a girl!
I was zoning out, picturing our first Halloween together as Elio and Oliver from “Call Me By Your Name,” when I realized the waitress was not-so-patiently waiting for Jamil’s drink order. He gave the snotty lady the quick elevator treatment with bored eyes and a snarky tone. “Sorry, miss. Naiinip ka na ba? Bored ka na ata e. Balik ka na lang when you’re more happy to take our order.” I cleared my throat. “Miss, he’s just kidding. Just bring us two glasses of your house sangria. Thank you so much.” The waitress—Beck, per her name tag—rolled her eyes as she left our table. Meow, girl. Okay. We kinda deserved that after the snarky remarks from my date.
Fck. I had such high hopes for this evening and Jamil had already ticked Red Flag #7. I didn’t say a word, just made a mental tally mark in the con column. Jamil’s a month younger than me yet he had that total hot Daddy vibe that checked every box for me. Age is another item on my Red Flag list, which could be negotiable. And yet he’d totally checked off Red Flag number seven, so that was technically two strikes. I recited it silently while I reached for a bread roll and began to butter it. “Red Flag number seven: No depth/substance, which includes but not limited to low IQ, arrogance, and lack of Good Manners and Right Conduct.”
Yes. His being snotty and sarcastic to our food server was a complete infraction of GMRC. However, I was nothing if not fair. Any potential boyfriend would get three strikes before they’re out. That meant Jamil had one more chance to wow me, or not wow me, as the case may be. Beck showed up with two frosty glasses of sangria, garnished with a pretty sliced orange floating on top. I took a sip and set the glass aside as I took another look at my menu.
My mouth fell open when Jamil reached over and took my menu. He closed it and handed both menus to our waitress. “We’ll order later. Thanks.”
Rude. I was going to throw a fit at him but he flashed a full smile and I’d lost my train of thought for how white and perfect his teeth were.
“I like you, Justin. Sobra. I hope you’re not one of those guys na against sa open relationship because that’s what I’m up for.”
I jerked back to reality when I realized he was talking. Did he just say he really likes me? Oh my gosh! But when the words “open relationship” finally registered in my head, I gasped. “Seryoso ka?!”
He leaned forward, his eyes fixed on me. “Yes. Being gay means we can break the norms and create our own rules! That’s what I’m hoping to have with you.”
Oh, hell no.
“Jam, you seem like a great and I really appreciate your honesty. But I refuse to be in an open relationship. Galing na ako sa ganung set up. I’m not completely against it because I know it works for some people, but it doesn’t work for me. I’m sorry.” I felt defeated. I waved at one of the waiters motioning for the check.
“What are you doing? Aalis ka na?” Jamil asked. He was taken aback by my reaction.
“Yes.” I replied.
“Come on, don’t. We can still have a great time.”
He was pretty to look at but I couldn’t get past the fact that I was with another wrong guy.
“Red Flag number twelve: Doesn’t believe in or want monogamy. Sadly, we aren’t ever going to get there. I’m afraid that you received three red flags strikes tonight. Ergo, we can only be friends.”
He stared at me blankly. “I’m sorry, Justin. Can you maybe back up a little bit and explain what you just said? Red Flags? Strikes? I’m completely lost here.”
“It’s simple. I have a list of red flags that I’ve put together that say what my ideal boyfriend shouldn’t be. When I date someone, he’s only allowed two strikes—or infractions, if you will—on our first date or before we determine the relationship. If it gets to third, that’s the end of it.”
Jamil seemed stunned for a moment before he threw his head back and started hooting with laughter. I watched indignantly as he laughed his ass off. So annoying. After taking a moment to wipe his eyes, he shook his head. “Okay. I apologize, Justin. You’re going to have to run that by me one more time. Exactly how many red flags are on this list, and which ones did I check off?”
When I began to explain, he laughed a little more, shaking his head again. “Okay, sure. I see where being snarky at our waitress might be seen as a dick move and my age might be the reason I view relationships differently. But I’m not going to argue with you, because if you’ve been sitting there silently judging me and holding me up to a list of red flags that I was completely unaware of this whole time, things weren’t ever going to work out anyway. A word of advice? Maybe let your future dates know about this list and the whole three-strike rule.”
“Point taken. I’ll take note of that.”
As we waited for the bill, he was still laughing. I had two thoughts as I watched him try to hold his laughter. First, I was glad we didn’t get to order food yet, otherwise I would not have enjoyed it. And second, I’d totally made the right choice when I’d stuck with my three-strike rule. Jamil would never have been a good match for me.